Facing Rejection

Rejection at Vervegirl.com

by Jackie Middleton

Missing out on an employment opportunity, failing to win the Fresh Face Competition, even a simple snub by a friend – they’re all lessons in facing rejection. Being rebuffed always stings. Luckily, Vervegirl.com understands. Here’s our sympathetic guide to dealing with life’s nasty brush-offs.

First Response: When you’re left out, feeling abandoned and upset is normal. Questions will bombard your brain: Why wasn’t I good enough? What did I do wrong? Before you jump to conclusions, take a deep breath and pause for a moment. Refrain from hitting send on that scathing email. Hold back on that face-to-face confrontation. First, acknowledge the anger, sadness even fear that you’re experiencing. These emotions are all part of processing rejection. Before you can feel better or seek an explanation, you must address your initial reaction. Remember – in the heat of the moment people often respond without thinking and live to regret their actions afterwards.

Talk It Out: After taking stock, you want to know why it happened. Carefully gather your thoughts and compose what you want to say. Are you calm? Able to get your point across? If you’ve answered yes, then go ahead and approach your boss, or friend. Be polite, and stay focused. Do not resort to foul language, raised voices or the blame game. The aim is to get a resolution without further distress for either of you.

Rejection at Vervegirl.com

Keep Calm and Carry On: Finished your discussion? Even if your conversation ended without a change of heart on their part, at least you had the courage and strength to inquire. Be proud of the fact that you handled yourself with dignity and grace. No doubt you’ll feel a bit better having taken control of an upsetting situation. Sometimes we don’t always get the results that we desire, but knowing how to behave during such adversity is an important life skill.

If you’re still feeling a little down, it helps to seek guidance from your friends, family or individuals that you trust. Sharing your concerns often aids in the healing process. You are not alone. Open up to those who care and you’ll soon be on the path to feeling better.

Note from the Online Editor, Kim Cooper:
Jackie Middleton is a freelance writer for Vervegirl.com. Jackie’s unhealthy addiction to pop culture only rivals her love of chocolate. Check out her blog at
www.losethatgirl.com.