Your life simplified!
We receive tons of questions from you everyday! Click here to see if we answered yours!Here at Vervegirl, we receive tons of questions from you everyday! Last week, Xania and I went through all the questions and decided we should answer them here in Vervegirl Unedited. What you may not know is, prior to Vervegirl, Xania worked as a relationship expert and wrote a column in 24 Hours. She is also our go to girl at the office for everything and anything guy related (she's helped us all avoid some major female melt-down). Got a burning question? Send it our way.
Dear XaniaI really like this guy a lot. He says he's interested in me but his life is super crazy. When I'm around him, I'm nervous and I'm always looking for him in the hallways at school. What should I do?
Signed, DL
Dear DL:
The butterflies we feel when we're crushing on a guy happens to the best of us. You're definitely not alone. When two shy people get together, it can be painfully hard to make things happen. Someone has to make the first move. The question is – who? If you really like this guy and you want to get to know him, send him a text message, poke him on FB or send him an email. It's easy to flirt through text messages and chat but at some point, you're both going to have to find the courage to talk to him face to face. Remember, he's just as nervous as you are. Incorporating some humour into your conversation will break the ice. Find some common ground. Ask him if he's been watching the Olympics (hockey?!) and what he thinks about how Canada played. Before you know it, the two of you will be talking till 3'o'clock in the morning! Good luck and keep me posted!!
Xania
Dear XaniaMy boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for little over a year but for the past six months it has been nonstop fighting and breaking up every few weeks. My friends and family keep encouraging me to leave him, but it's difficult because I'm still crazy in love with him. I cant keep up with all this stress, so what should I do?
Signed, M. - Ottawa
Dear M:
Wow. I can totally relate to what you're talking about. I've been in a few relationships where things were great in the beginning and then at some point, things took a turn for the worst. The change didn't mean I didn't love my boyfriend but what I learned over time is that just because you love someone it doesn't necessarily mean you're destined to be with that person. It's healthy to argue and fight because it teaches us how to resolve conflict with other people. What isn't healthy is when you're fighting the majority of the time. In your case, you've been fighting with your b/f for 6 months and happy for 6 months. Your friends and family are probably right. They are watching your relationship from the outside looking in and are providing you with an objective point of view. When you're in the thick of emotional turmoil, it's so hard to see the light. I know it's not what you want to hear but maybe you might want to think about taking a break from your b/f and reconnecting with the other things you love to do. You might realize, after time, you're much happier without him. You have to give it an honest try though. If you're both miserable after a month, try again but if the fighting and arguing continue, you should seriously consider making a clean break and move on.
Xania
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