Dear Kelly
Compiled by Mandy Ng
Dear Kelly,
I know this girl likes my boyfriend. I suspect my boyfriend likes her back. I don’t want to let him go but I don’t want to compete for him. What should I do?
You should confront them both so you’ll know for sure. I would rather know than not know. If you truly like him, you should fight for what you believe in, but if you don’t want to compete, then you don’t really like him.
Dear Kelly,
How come boys don’t call when they say they will? Why do girls wait by the phone?
Boys don’t call because they’re inconsiderate and they don’t think about it as much as girls do. Most of my guy friends take longer to get ready than I do—they probably use that time to put gel in their hair or something. It’s just one of those things—girls think differently than men. I’ve waited by the phone a million times. But if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. If it happens, it happens. I learned the hard way, but I don’t waste seconds of my life waiting by the phone anymore.
Dear Kelly,
My boyfriend doesn’t talk to me around his friends. And none of his friends make an effort to talk to me either. But my boyfriend is really sweet to me when we’re alone. Should I dump him or can I get him to change his ways?
You should make an effort to talk to his friends. If they snub you, then don’t hang out with him when he’s with his friends. Everyone is self-conscious about different things. Maybe your boyfriend isn’t a fan of public displays of affection or he’s just shy. Maybe there’s a hidden thing behind it you don’t know about. It takes two to have a conversation.
Dear Kelly,
I’m still not over my first boyfriend. I feel like I can never love again. How do I get over him?
You never get over your first love. Not even if he ends up being the most despicable person in the world. It takes time to mend your heart, there’s nothing you can do. It took me almost three years to get over it. I was treated horribly by my ex—he broke up with me on Valentine’s Day. I did mean things to get back at him, which was really stupid of me. I hooked up with his best friend, I would say horrible things about him—but I didn’t make any of it up—it was true! It was mean and it got me nowhere so I learned that the best thing is to live and let live. Just forget about it. I’m telling you, though—the best thing you can do is to ignore him because boys can’t stand to be ignored.
Dear Kelly,
I’ve had three boyfriends and they all ended up dumping me after a couple of weeks. I can’t help but feel rejected. How do I get over this feeling?
You just haven’t found the right person. I hate getting rejected, that’s what makes me so angry about being dumped. I make it my life’s mission to ruin their lives. But instead, just ignore them in return because it kills them. My album hits on a lot of relationship issues I went through. I had a broken heart; I really was in love. It hurts to get rejected, but it hurts to get rejected from someone you love even more.
Dear Kelly,
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a couple of months. Although I really like him, I feel like things are moving too fast. I’m scared if I tell him to slow down he’ll lose interest in me. How can I tell him to slow down without losing him?
Yeah, that’s weird because you don’t know if he’s just with you because of sex. When you’re young you really want to experience that. But you should also know that every action has a reaction. You should tell him honestly to slow down and that you’re scared. If he dumps you then he’s not the right guy for you.
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